Why Tolerance for Being Alone Is Necessary for Good Living

Aligning with natural cycles as a direct, physical experience requires living in ebb and flow, much as our Moon does. There are times of great activity and energy, such as at Full Moon times, and there are quieter times of repose, rest and stillness, such as at Dark of the Moon and Void of Course Moon times.

Until recently, I was not consciously aware that there is a generational divide, a large group of young people who might feel challenged acquiescing to the slower, low energy times. The term “low energy times” is not a pejorative. Resting and stillness are part of the productivity and creativity cycle and low energy times are cycle phases that naturally occur in life, nature and the human body.

An essay that I encountered recently spells out, in historical detail, the evolution of our comfort levels with resting, stillness, time alone, time in nature and doing nothing. While the essay is a literary read, it offers informative perspective on our current wildly wired time.

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Photo by Aureal Williams

As a natural time consultant, I share experiences aligning with natural cycles, including the challenges and benefits. Through deep listening, shared reflection and intuitive coaching, and decades of lived experience, I assist others who wish to align with natural cycles.

My adaptation to living in alignment with natural cycles comes from my own unique constitution, and that is different for everyone. I am someone who loves silence, time in nature, and doing nothing. I was born before wireless communication was universal, as it is now. I remember Saturday afternoons, growing up, when I felt very bored. Daydreaming was my go to activity.

People born in more recent times still get bored, however, their antidote to boredom includes frequent texting to friends and folks who might not be friends. In addition, there are a gazillion television or youtube channels to distract, or gaming. As someone who invites the experience of doing nothing, I am up against mind-boggling competition!

There is a slight turn in the wind, though. Do a google search for “doctors prescribing time in nature” and a wide array of articles pop up. Spending time alone in nature or engaged in solitary activities like taking a nap, or daydreaming while sipping a cup of tea are indulgences from an earlier time, however, they are actually timeless examples of good medicine.

Being alone is easy for some and challenging for others, no matter the generation into which they are born. True connection feeds the soul, promotes health and a sense of well-being. Being comfortable being alone, with times of silence and stillness, ground the relationship with one’s self. Healthy relationship with one’s self opens the door to all other good relationships.

Please share your joys and challenges being alone in the comments section. I would love to hear from you!

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